Why Chasing Happiness Keeps You Miserable. How to Truly BE Happy.
If you've been chasing happiness your whole life — checking off the boxes, doing all the right things — and still feel like something's missing, this episode is for you.
In this conversation, we explore why chasing happiness will never actually lead to it, and what does instead. You'll walk away understanding why your mind and body have felt so exhausted from the chase, and more importantly, how to start cultivating real, lasting happiness by coming back to your own truth.
What you'll get from this episode:
• Clarity on why the pursuit of happiness keeps you stuck
• A deeper understanding of how self-abandonment affects every area of your life
• Practical ways to begin cultivating happiness from the inside out
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[00:00:00] Welcome to a Little More You podcast. The this podcast is for the woman who's done being who she's supposed to be and ready to step into her truth. Your life might look great on paper. You've done all the things that society says you should, but you feel like something's missing and that something is you.
This is where we'll make space to listen inward to the wisdom that's already within you and bring a little more you into the world. I'm Kendra, your host, and I'm honored to walk this path with you. Our topic for today is chasing happiness. We're gonna talk about why in the heck do we even chase it in the first place?
What are we chasing? Like take a moment to just pause and witness what it is we're chasing. And then we'll talk a little bit about why do we keep chasing the things that we do when most of the time they [00:01:00] don't bring us real true happiness. And then we will talk about what happens over time when we continue to abandon our own truth for the things that everybody else says will make us happy.
And at the end, we'll talk about how to cultivate true happiness in your life. So I'll give you some tips and some ideas to think about how you can actually cultivate happiness in your life.
So before we get started on this topic, I do want to say I am recording this podcast about happiness during a time when the world feels a little bit chaotic and it feels almost weird to talk about happiness at the same time, . But my belief is that in order for us to make change in the world, we have to be rooted in our own truth. We have to create lives where we are able to live , from a place of happiness, so that we can then exude [00:02:00] love, joy out into the world. So that's why I'm doing this podcast today because I do think it's absolutely relevant to our current world.
Our current environment is that if we can get ourselves rooted in our own happiness and our own truths, then we are able then to go share out to the world in a way that we really couldn't do if we don't ground ourselves and recenter ourselves in this first.
Let's start off with why we chase happiness. Everyone seems to be , chasing something these days, right? We're all desperately trying to find the next thing that's gonna make us happy. How often do you say to yourself, you know, I'll be happy when or if I can only have what she has?
Then I'd be happy. Whatever it is that you're jealous of out in the world, the partner, the house, the job, the accomplishment, whatever it might be. But why is that? Why are we constantly striving [00:03:00] to feel this feeling of happiness? I wanna take us back in history for just a minute. Back to good hold.
1176 when our declaration of Independence was signed, and we had this little saying that our good friend Thomas Jefferson added in, which is the life, liberty, and the pursuit. Happiness. So since that moment, we as a culture, as an American culture have been rooted in this belief that happiness is something to be pursued and not something that you have right now.
And that's evident in things like happiness indexes where the US is ranked lower than the global average at 68% happy, we are the 21st among the countries studied. So we are not absolutely not the happiest culture in the world.
and I think that is [00:04:00] somewhat connected to the original intent written into this statement because it assumes that happiness is something to be achieved.
It's something that's in the distant future. It's something you have to go out and get and it can't just be and reside right here within you.
I would love to know if that resonates for you. Let me know in the comments if this is something that you feel in your everyday life.
Now I know one statement from years ago doesn't necessarily directly correlate to, , our lives today, but it kind of does because it set the foundation for our culture throughout history. Do. And what I mean by that is it set a cultural norm. And what psychology says a cultural norm is, is any rule or value or standard that delineates an accepted or appropriate behavior for a culture.
It is accepted in our culture that you should have to strive for happiness. These are [00:05:00] rules that are put in place, whether stated or unstated, this one was stated. But sometimes in our daily life, it can feel unstated that there's this underlying current that you have to strive for happiness. You have to, you have to go get something in order to be happy.
That might be kind of an underlying, undercurrent, understated thing in your life. This idea of the pursuit of happiness is just one example of cultural norms. There are more than we're gonna talk about today, but they're, they're everywhere. They're everywhere. They show up in our families of origin. They show up in our educational systems, our religious systems spiritual spaces, work environments.
They're everywhere. Today we're gonna specifically hone in on this idea of the pursuit of happiness because I think it's really important for us to strip away this idea of pursuit and find some contentment and happiness in our lives and our daily experiences.
And that's because [00:06:00] these cultural norms influence and set the expectations around what we believe and what we believe directly impacts. This is a behavior chain conversation. It is the start of your behavior change directly impacts . How you behave in the world, how you show up in the world. So if you have a belief that chasing happiness is the truth, then you will go out and behave in a way that isn't aligned with that belief.
We've established here at this point in the podcast, that the pursuit of happiness is a cultural norm, how does that particular cultural norm impact us? Let's talk about it. Throughout our lives. Like I said, these cultural norms show up in a lot of different places. So think about what your parents, your teachers, maybe the internet, social media, advertisers, what if they all told you will make you happy?
Many times when you take the [00:07:00] time to consider this, you'll start to notice that everybody has a different opinion. You know, one group says happiness is this. Another group says Happiness is that, which creates a lot of confusion, right?
We don't know what is. Gonna bring us happiness because everybody says something different. It's gonna bring us happiness. So what do we do? We go chase all of it. We go chase everything that everybody thinks will make us happy and we're exhausted so they can be these, these recommendations can be subtle hints.
And frankly sometimes not so subtle hints. They can be requirements that our parents say, you have to go do this thing in order to be happy, and you go do that thing because, you know, we believe our parents when we're young
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But if we're not careful, we can spend our entire lives striving and chasing to do all the things that other people say will make us happy, and then never really truly [00:08:00] find happiness or the happiness that we want, which is the continuous contentment and happiness with who we are as human beings and the life that we're living.
I will give you an example of how this has shown up in my life. I've talked about this on previous podcasts, but my husband and I did experience the stillbirth of our daughter many years ago, and we did subsequently go through infertility treatments after that and went through several years of trying to have a child and couldn't, and then we ended up having a child, totally, naturally without any support. And so I had worked really, really hard to have this, this baby, this kiddo, super healthy, happy kid now, and. One of the stories that I had been taught when I was young is that authority figures no better than me. So my teachers, my parents, older, wiser they just know more than me.[00:09:00]
And in some cases, probably true, you know age does bring wisdom, but where the tension lies is when that wisdom isn't necessarily aligned with my truth. So, the story that I had been taught, the cultural norm in my home was that authority figures no better than me. There was one night where I was holding my young son, he was probably six months old at the time, rocking him at night in the dark in my grandmother's rocking chair.
And the story in my head was a recent conversation we had had with his doctor. Who said, you know, just in her, you know, list of things to go through at the time was yes, just start putting him in his bed when he feels drowsy so he can learn to cope and self-soothe and go to sleep on his own. And we did that a lot, but that particular night I.
I didn't want to, I wanted to hold my son until he fell asleep and then put him [00:10:00] in his bed. And yet the cultural norm that was running through my head and the story that was in my mind was this conversation with an authority figure saying you need to put him down. And as I reconciled that in my mind, just tears came down my face.
Big sobbing tears because. I was so, there was so much tension in my own body about what I should do because I really wanted to hold my body and yet the cultural norm and the story that was, that was rolling through my head was, you really need to put him down so he can learn to self-soothe. I did not do that.
I chose to go with my truth because in that moment, , that's what I needed. That's what my son needed. That's what we needed. I let go of the cultural norm in order to do and behave in a way that felt aligned with my truth, which again. Brings me back [00:11:00] to my happiness. This is just an example.
I would love for you to think about what are some of the cultural norms that you've been taught about? What will make you happy via your family, your friends, your social groups, whatever. Um, work, religion any group that you're a part of. What if they told you will make you happy? What are the, the messages that you've received from the outside that say, this is what'll make you happy.
And the next question I want you to ask yourself is, what are you chasing because you think you need it in order to be happy? So the first question's kind of an external in like what have you heard? And then the next question is a little more like, what? What internally do you think you need and that you are chasing because you think you need [00:12:00] it in order to be happy?
This is just an opportunity to just kind of witness and pay attention to the things that you're chasing in your life.
The next question that I want us to consider is if our bodies know that this cultural norm doesn't feel great, then why do we ignore our inner truth and comply with the external? Cultural expectations, and there's two reasons that that, that this happens. One is because of this need to belong, so our brains and our nervous systems were wired thousands of years ago.
They were wired during a time when we lived in small tribal communities where belonging in those small tribal communities did mean survival. If you were exiled from a group, you risked food [00:13:00] safety community, all the things, , it could lead. To death, if you didn't have the support of your small tribal community, it could lead to death.
So our nervous systems have been wired and programmed to a certain extent, to prioritize group norms and group expectations over our own truth.
. And then fast forward thousands of years to today, and we sit in a world where that is no longer the truth to, for the most part, that is not the truth. Survival is not dependent upon belonging to a particular group, and yet our culture reinforces this idea that if you do not conform to a particular groups.
Expectations, cultural norms, then you'll get kicked out of the group, and there may be [00:14:00] consequences
we're told, whether stated or unstated, that being accepted or belonging to a particular group or fitting in with a particular expectation is more important than belonging and aligning to our own true selves. When in fact, as a human being, I think we've evolved to a place where that is actually the opposite is true.
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So we have our, our body, our nervous system, remembering this idea that belonging equals survival. And then we have cultural statements and influence reinforcing that in our bodies. We're taught that other people know more about what.
Make us happy than we do, and that we should really ignore that inner wisdom of our own truth, and instead [00:15:00] seek those answers outside of ourselves.
How often do you go out and like survey other people to , make a decision? You know, what should I do, what should I do? Asking them their opinions and you get, you know, nine different answers and you're like, I still don't know what to do. So, so many of us keep chasing these ideas of what everybody else says will make us happy
Our bodies and culture reinforce the idea that it's just easier for us to adhere to the cultural norms. So I'll give you another example of my life and story after my daughter was still born.
Um, this was before we had my son. I was asked to participate in a event at work. We were all coming together as a team to go out and do some community service. And when the email came to me. That said we were going to be doing, [00:16:00] I'm gonna get emotional about it, that we were going to be doing our community service in a graveyard.
I had a full body reaction to that expectation and I was brave and had a conversation with my boss and said, this really feels uncomfortable for me. I really don't want to do this, um, activity with the group. And this was a trip that I was flying to another state, so it's not like I could just be like, Hey, I'm just not gonna show up because we're all staying in the hotel.
We're all together all day long, and then we were going to do this as part of our day. So, um, it wasn't a situation where I could just be like, oh, I'm busy. Can't go. . And so I raised my concerns to my boss and unfortunately the response was, well, can you just reframe it?
Can you just think of it differently? This is helping out, you know, as a veteran cemetery. So certainly good cause, certainly good community service. [00:17:00] And I thought, okay, I'll just, you know, suck it up and do it. , That decision weighed on me the idea of doing this.
Event weighed on me so much that I just, for two weeks, two or three weeks, I just walked around just very like heavy. Like, I don't know how I'm gonna do this. And the day before I left for my trip, my in-laws were in town and my father-in-law just looked at me and he was like, why don't you just call the cemetery and make a change like men do?
Like why can't you just. Take responsibility for your own situation and make a different decision. And it never occurred to me to do that. And I thought, oh, no, no. You know, my boss said I should really just suck it up. I gotta figure it out. And I was sitting at the airport waiting to get on my flight and I was like, you know what?
No. I emailed the cemetery and I was just like, Hey, here's the situation. My team is coming out, they're doing this [00:18:00] work and I'm not talking like working on flowers away from, they were like digging up tombstones and like resetting them, like working on the grave site. And so I explained to them that.
This felt really uncomfortable for me and that I would be very appreciative if there was another way that I could support without doing that work. And they responded almost immediately, like by the time my flight landed with absolutely not a problem, and I cannot tell you the amount of relief I felt. I was like, yay, wonderful.
I just advocated for myself, and then I didn't tell my boss. I'm riding in the car with my boss on the way to the cemetery, and we get to the cemetery and I tell my boss, I contacted the cemetery and I'm going to be doing something else. I'll stay here for, you know, the initial prayer, reflection, whatever we do at the beginning.
But I will be going and [00:19:00] doing different work. I will still be supporting. I just won't be doing this. And then I walked up to the cemetery. I stayed with my team, but none of the staff from the cemetery. Like said anything to me right away and I thought, oh gosh, they forgot, or they didn't know, or, you know, the message didn't get relayed to this gentleman who's helping us set, you know, get it all set up.
And I was, I mean, my heart rate started going through the roof and I'm like, I can do this, I can do this, I can do this. Even though I reached out and even though they said that I was gonna be able to do something different, they've forgotten and I'm gonna be okay and I'm gonna do this work and I'm gonna figure it out.
And I mean, full body experience again. And when we closed the reflection and they began the, my team began to kind of scatter out. The gentleman looked at me and said, are you Kendra? I understand you'd like to do some different work. This lady right here with the truck will be taking you to go do something else.
And I'm [00:20:00] not kidding y'all. I walked away and I had the biggest, deepest like release of an I cried sobs. On my way to the truck because I didn't wanna do that work. It didn't align to me. And I was so grateful and thankful that somebody remembered and I didn't have to say anything in the moment. And I went and I think I ended up doing they gave me like a rake and I did, either at like cornhole or like horseshoes, you know, like the sand, which is extremely meditative and beautiful. They just needed people to like somebody to go pull the, the grass that had grown up, the weeds that had grown up in that sand and then kind of rake it. Smooth again. So I got to do that instead.
And granted I wasn't with my team, but I was still supporting the cemetery. I was still volunteering, I was still doing good work, and I was doing it in a way that aligned to my truth. So I would love for you to think about. What areas of your life or specific [00:21:00] situations are you conforming to cultural or societal expectations when it doesn't feel right for you,
there's really no need to change anything right now if you're not in a place where you're ready to do that. The first step is really just witnessing where. You might have some misalignment, but then ask yourself, is there an opportunity for me to make any changes?
Now I do. I do just wanna pause right here and say that there's nothing wrong with cultural norms. Cultural norms are actually quite valuable. When you think about the continuation of cultures over time and over history. What is. Concerning or challenging is when that cultural norm, like my graveyard situation, isn't alignment with an individual's true self.
And yet that individual like myself was either forced to or strongly influenced to conform to that [00:22:00] group expectation. That's where the tension lies, when you continuously abandon yourself in lieu of those cultural norms, your mind and body feel it.
. And when you do that over the course of your lifetime, you end up overriding your own knowing so many times that eventually you stop being able to hear it. And sometimes I think that maybe our culture, that was kind of the point, but that's a sidebar conversation.
When your body is telling you to rest, but culture tells you to push through, or your soul says this. Is, this is not the direction you need to go, but you do it anyway because the cultural script says stay here, perform, be grateful that your life is the way that it is, because it could be worse.
And that that gap between knowing what we want to be true. How you're actually [00:23:00] living. That's actually called cognitive dissonance. It actually has a name in psychology, so I'm not making this stuff up. When you're in that state for a long period of time, a state where your inner wisdom knows this isn't the right thing for you, and yet you stay there because of cultural norms and societal expectations.
, It ends up becoming a chronic state, and that has implications across all areas of your life. Mentally, you may start to feel anxiety that happened to me. Depression, brain fog, decision fatigue because you have 900 people telling you what'll make you happy and yet. You can't figure it out because they're all different opinions.
You lose trust in your own judgment because you've overridden it so many times. You don't have the self-trust anymore to make a decision from your own internal wisdom. You start to outsource all your [00:24:00] decisions. This goes back to that, you know, asking all your friends and getting all that feedback,
but none of it is clear physically. When you are experiencing cognitive dissonance. When you wanna do one thing, you wanna go one way, it is your truth, and yet you do the opposite. You are in a sympathetic state from a nervous system's perspective, and when you do that over and over and over again, your body can go into high inflammation, chronic fatigue, gut issues, hormonal disturbances, insomnia.
The body keeps the score. There's actually a book called The Body Keeps the Score. It is true that our bodies can feel that tension, and every time you abandon yourself,
your body doesn't necessarily just forget because your mind has rationalized it for you. The body remembers. It remembers that tension. Spiritually, you might feel a little bit empty, a little [00:25:00] hollow maybe because there's something missing in your life and that something is you, . you've been so busy performing the version of yourself that gets the approval or the accolades
that the actual, you hasn't necessarily been consulted or connected with in maybe years. And so you feel this sense of emptiness. Relationally, you might start to attract people who also don't see you because you don't see you, because we have these mirror neurons , like attracts like. And so if you are not recognizing your own true self, other people aren't going to be able to recognize it either.
You're gonna attract other people who leave you feeling unseen. So this self abandonment isn't just a bad habit, it's a full system [00:26:00] collapse, designed as I got it all together. I am winning it life, and yet internally you're really struggling.
So here's a quick little self-reflection for you. imagine yourself in those environments. Not the story of them, but just the weight of them. Like where does that tension show up in your body? What are you battling against mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, relationally?
That might be an indicator of where you have some misalignment with your soul's desires. Maybe notice how long you've been holding on to that tension notice what thoughts or sensations come up, what emotions come up when you take a moment to witness that. Fully embody how that felt. How that feels when you abandon your truth for those cultural expectations.
You don't have to do anything with that information right now. [00:27:00] Just notice how it feels. That's enough for right now. It may, , make you aware enough to make some different decisions in the future, but right now it's just, you just start with awareness. Everything is just starting with awareness.
The last topic that we'll talk about today is okay if, if we know all these things about all the things we've been chasing and that. Maybe they're not aligned with who we are or who we wanna be. How do we start cultivating happiness? If the pursuit of happiness doesn't lead to happiness, what does?
How do we get there? The answer is, the happiness comes before, not after achievement or getting, or happiness isn't something to be chased. It's a state of being. Here's how we can start to cultivate some of that. Now, the first three things that I'm gonna mention, I will say they, they come directly from [00:28:00] a book called the Gap in the Gain by Dan Sullivan, which is, um, a great book.
It's specifically designed for entrepreneurs, but it is a book really about happiness in its essence. So there are three things that they say will help you. Lean into this being happy, and . then I'll give you a couple of things that I think are important.
The first one is to embrace the wants versus relying on the needs. This is just letting go of this idea that you need something in order to be happy. You can actually still continue to want something, the house, the car, the job, the this, but it's decoupling that want from this. The idea that you need it in order to be happy.
So it's just a decoupling and it's a this is kind of a mindset shift conversation. Just taking out the idea that you actually [00:29:00] need something to be happy. You can still want it. Like I said, you can want all those things. You just have to rephrase it and re-imagine it in your mind that it's not something that you have to have in order to be happy.
The second thing that they recommend in this book is to measure yourself backwards, which means that we tend to, and I used to do this a lot, and I'm really trying to reframe this for myself too. We tend to measure our progress based on where we're going, not from where we've been. So when you create a vision board or you create a goal and you set up, you know, I wanna be here by this day on this time.
If you ever have listened to me, you'll hear me rant about goals. I hate goals. I think they're ridiculous. that's a whole other episode. I'll include a link to that one below if you wanna go listen to that one. But part of the reason that I don't like goals is this exact reason is because.[00:30:00]
When we set a goal or a vision for our future, we tend to measure ourselves against that. We're not there yet. I thought I'd be there by now. , I didn't get as far as I thought I would this year towards that goal or towards that vision. And so we're constantly in what they, what Dan Sullivan calls the gap.
We're constantly in the gap. We're constantly in the in the negative. We haven't reached our goal yet, and so that immediately puts us in a state of depression, anxiety, frustration, irritation, when you measure yourself against your future. Instead, he recommends measuring yourself against your past. So if I said six months ago that I wanted to start a podcast.
I did. Here I am doing it now. Is it perfect? Is it great? Is it, [00:31:00] you know, high volume views yet? No. But am I doing the thing? Yes, there is a different essence to feeling accomplished when you can say that you are making progress towards your goals based on where you, from, where you've been rather than from where you're going.
So that's the second way that we can cultivate happiness. The third way is, and this one's kind of a little tricky to explain, so I wanna give it a minute. The third one is create meaning and value based on your past. So the way that this is explained is your past is flexible, sounds counterintuitive, correct.
The idea here is that your past only exists in your own mind. It, it no longer exists in the physical world, and so you can evolve to where your past [00:32:00] means something different. To you than it did in the moment. So basically this goes back to, somebody asked me at one point, do you think everything happens for a reason?
And I was like, Hmm, no. It's hard to say that. I think everything happens for a reason when I've had a child who is stillborn. I don't think there was a reason. For that to happen. Now, what I do believe is that we can find meaning and reason in the things that happen to us, and that's what they're talking about here when you're talking about your past is flexible.
They're talking about finding meaning and reason in the things that have happened to you and the experiences that you've had in life, that if you can do that, it leads to more happiness. So those are three things that Dan Sullivan recommends. . But there are two things that I would add. One of them is what I call [00:33:00] soul led living. Soul led living is when you begin to make yourself the reference point rather than measuring yourself against something external. If you had 10 things that other people said would make you happy, and you go do those 10 things and.
You don't ever feel continuous underlying happiness. You might feel a little bit of joy when you get that one thing or another, but continuous underlying happiness does not reside in your body. It's because you are going and chasing things that other people have said. Will make you happy rather than soul led living is really allowing your inner wisdom to determine what those things are for you , and you know that you don't need anybody else's permission to go do those things.
So wipe the port clean of the 10 things that everybody [00:34:00] else said you should go do to make yourself happy, and then. Tap into your inner wisdom and your inner knowing . Choose your own things that will make you happy. So that is a lot of the work that I do with clients.
And if that's something that's calling you, I did create a 10 day True, you reset that. You can grab below if you want. It will give you an opportunity to just reset yourself with you at the center of your life. So there will be a link to that in the show notes below. Please grab it if you want.
The last thing that can help cultivate happiness is to remember that we are not in total control of our lives, which means that we have to surrender to What is my saying that I always say is do your part in surrender. So Do your part is that we co-create our existence.
I believe we co-create our existence. We have to show up, [00:35:00] we have to do the work, the inner work. We have to. Then take action because nothing ever happened. Nothing ever comes to fruition without us taking some sort of action, which can sometimes be the hard part. And I help people work through, you know, what's holding us back from taking that action.
But when we can show up in our lives and make choices in ways that support the cultivation of those wants and also. . We have to embrace the idea that we're not in control of everything. None of us can escape suffering. None of us can escape. What it means to be human, which means grief and loss and suffering and tragedy.
We're all gonna experience those things and this conversation about happiness does not negate that. It is, how do we live through those experiences, live in [00:36:00] those experiences, be with those experiences, and. Continue to have an underlying sense of what it means to be happy in this lifetime on this earth, because what's the point of being here if we can't truly live happy lives?
what's the point? So there are things we cannot change in life. There are things we have to embrace. I absolutely understand life isn't going to be happy. Beautiful butterflies all the time. I. Know that more than most. But what I do know is that there is this continuous opportunity to return to
what does it mean to live true to yourself and happy in this lifetime? So if there's one thing, if there's only one thing that you take away from this podcast today, I want you to take this. You have permission and you [00:37:00] can say goodbye to all of those things that everyone else said would make you happy.
You can make different choices and you can take action to build a life that's fully aligned with your true self. And when you do, you will be able to spread love and joy and happiness into the world in ways you never thought you could. We're constantly influenced by the world around us, and this episode is really here to just open your eyes and your heart to witnessing how your external world has influenced you, and understand what it means to be happy during this one precious life.
You can certainly continue to. Chase the world's version of happiness. That's your choice. I'm not saying you have to stop and in some areas of your life, you may continue to chase those things, and it's okay because we approach [00:38:00] these changes in our lives when the timing is right and we can't do it all at once.
So find an area you feel like you're ready to make some change in, or that's calling you to make some changes in and start there. I will say this, that if you continue to choose to stay in alignment with the world's version of happiness, you will spend your whole life chasing things and never really, truly feel happy.
If you want more guidance, certainly follow this podcast, subscribe and I'll continue to show you steps to release yourself from the vices of these world's expectations and really begin to step into your truth and build a life where you feel happy.
As always when I wrap up this podcast, notice what resonates with you, what felt true for you if anything, and let that guide you forward Until next time. [00:39:00] May your days be guided by your inner wisdom and filled with a little more you.
Hi there, I’m Kendra.
I’m a woman forever changed by loss and by the quiet clarity that followed. I walked away from the life I was “supposed” to want and began creating one that felt like home.
Now I work with women who are ready to reclaim their identity, their relational sovereignty, and their soulful leadership. The ones who are done shrinking and ready to start living in their truth.